DEAR Louise
April 2006

Dear Louise,
My son’s fiancée is a lovely woman. I think she would make a great daughter-in-law. However, I do have one silly concern. Her birthday is June 15, 1977. This factors down to an astrological number of 6-6-6. I’ve heard so many bad things about this number. I haven’t spoken about this to anyone, let alone my son. Please advise.
D.C., Atlanta, Georgia

Dear D.C.,
Yes, it’s silly. You might as well be concerned about a certain flower or a color. Do you really think that everyone born on this date is doomed? There are some people who have nothing better to do than sell fear. Remember all the hoopla over the year 2000? The fear surrounding that date was widespread. Many people lost money trying to escape the coming of the millennium.
Please don’t listen to fear mongers. Trust your inner wisdom. I sense that your real concern is for your son. Here are some affirmations I suggest you use to ease your concerns: My son’s marriage is blessed and divinely protected. The safety I seek in the outer world begins with the safety I create within myself. I am willing to learn to love my son’s fiancée and to support her. We support each other, and our way is made easy. My understanding of life and how to live it deepens and grows. All is truly well in my world.

Dear Louise,
I know that everything you say in each book is true, but somehow I don’t want to accept it. I’m in a relationship that is kind of traumatic in some aspects. I don’t want to live a life like this. It makes me feel horrible. My wife doesn’t want me to have friends or go out with them, and she doesn’t even want me to have my mother living with me.
I'm afraid of her, but afraid of leaving her, and I don’t know how to get out of this relationship. The reason I’m writing is because I’m desperate for help. I look for it, but I don’t find anything that really helps me. I hope you get this message, and if you can write back and tell me how to get help, I will be grateful forever.
V.J., Dallas, Texas

Dear V.J.,
You don’t have to believe anything I write. You have the freedom to think exactly the thought you’re thinking. However, your thoughts have created the mess you’re living in. Instead of saying, “I’m desperate for help,” you could say, “I am now willing to make the changes that will create a good life for myself and my family.” Or simply, “I am willing to change.”
Don’t try to change everything all at once. It will be too much for you. At this time, you need to start small. Take deep breaths and affirm: I am safe. I am safe. Do this repeatedly for a week. The second week, say: I am at peace. I am at peace. You need to get peaceful inside so that your inner wisdom can kick in. Also, go see the pastor of your church. You need more guidance than you can get in a brief letter.

Dear Louise,
My younger brother was just diagnosed with scleroderma, and he is terrified. He’s aware that I lost a dear friend to this horrific disease about nine years ago. How can I help him?
E.C., Toronto, Canada

Dear E.C.,
The best way to help your brother is to stop using terms such as “horrific disease.” Just because one person dies doesn’t mean that everyone, or even your brother, will react in the same way. Don’t let yourself be consumed with fear. You must know that there’s an answer. Let’s see your brother rising above whatever circumstances contributed to this disease. I want you to begin knowing and affirming that there’s an answer, and your brother will attract whatever he needs to heal this condition. Don’t use the word scleroderma again. It has too much of a charge on it for you.
On the physical level, I’d go to a practitioner of Oriental medicine. They’re well versed with conditions like this. Begin there, and step by step you and your brother will be led to the solution. It would be good for both of you to meditate. Your minds need calming. This is not the end of the world. It’s a challenge, and you will step up to the plate. Be at peace.

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Louise L. Hay is a metaphysical teacher and the best-selling author of numerous books, including You Can Heal Your Life, Empowering Women, and I Can Do It®. For the past 25 years, she has assisted millions of people in discovering and using the full potential of their own creative powers for personal growth and self-healing. Louise’s works have been translated into 29 different languages in 35 countries throughout the world. Website: http://www.LouiseHay.com